The dangers of text!

Most people who know me (heh) know that I am generally not a hostile person. Whenever I talk to friends, I am usually rather soft-spoken. There is always the exception of when I am talking about issues, like politics or polices or war, etc. Then I know that sometimes I sound like I’m talking down, but I never intend to. I can be stern, and people who don’t know that might think I’m being hostile, but when I notice them backing, I’ll try to reassure them. With some of my friends, I’ll actually pretend to be a crazy nut case that seems to freak out about the littlest things, but I really just do that for fun (Ahh! My secret is revealed!) But, I digress. Back to what I said, I don’t speak with hostility. Especially with people of “higher regard”, like the “all-time buddies” and (hint hint) whomever I might be in love with at the moment (cough). Now to the title, what about text? I’m sure literature buffs would say “of course you can read tone.” Well sure you can, but not when the message is no more 500 characters in length (that’s the max for Nextel by the way). If I am sending one or two sentences, I suppose the tone of the message is dependent on the reader. Well, that shouldn’t be a problem because people who know me know that I’m not hostile (see above). I never have a problem with this tone thing except for with one person, to whom I really, really don’t want to be perceived as I am being hostile (see “hint hint” above). But, here’s where I’m torn. Why would someone I always speak softly and sweetly to think I am hostile when I text? Why would she read it like that when I’m never like that when I speak? I guess the only thing I can do is avoid text. But then, won’t she think I’m avoiding her (which I would be)? Ideally, I would talk to her, but it appears that I can’t get a hold of her now. What a dilemma. Sigh…
Thoughts?